Across the world many stories abound about the destructive outcomes of Parental Alienation. Each story is unique, painful and unbelievable. Both to those people involved, or on the periphery, or even completely outside, of the family unit facing such sustained trauma.
In most cases the one abiding legacy emerges that a recently once loved supportive parent is dismissively cast aside by their offspring as well as the wider family or previous close friends. All because of a crumbling parental relationship. It is not only the embittered previous partner who relentlessly denigrates the ‘other half’ of a once loving family unit. It is the unexpected and unexplained rejection of the ‘targeted’ parent by their child or children.
One fact emerges from the fog of the family breakdown ‘conflict’. The remorseless and sustained emotional manipulation and brainwashing employed by the Alienator against their child or children is constant. To justify or underpin this unending brainwashing the Alienator seizes on any small indiscretion or failure, true or perceived, of the ‘target’ parent and negatively magnifies each event. Until, in the mind of the child, the once loved parent becomes a derided and hated figure.
In all the expert analysis I have read over the years about Parental Alienation one perceptive insight, by a respected professional in the field of research, stays with me. This insight still haunts me to this day.
Hatred is not a natural emotion of a child. To become part of a child’s nature, hatred has to be taught.
Any parent who teaches a child to hate, or fear, the other parent represents a grave and persistent danger to the mental and emotional health of that child. Even in this day and age, brainwashed and manipulated children of Parental Alienation are no less psychologically damaged than other child victims of extreme conflict. Other damaged children such as ‘child soldiers’ and ‘abducted minors’.